When I started out this adventure of starting my own business, I was terrified of failing. I was completely obsessed with making sure I did everything to set it up and keep it alive. It drove me crazy!
I had a goal of setting up the business by the time I left for Asia. This gave me about 2 months to get everything together. I kept a pretty disciplined schedule to accomplish this. Then I went away for 3 weeks.
Going away for 3 weeks gave me a lot perspective on failure....
I know. It's crazy I stepped away for a few weeks after launching the business, but I'm crazy like that :)
I was so close to canceling my Asia trip because I was scared something horrible was going to happen to my precious little puppy that I had nurtured for 2 wrenching months.
Going away for 3 weeks literally made me feel like I had jumped off the side of a cliff. I knew the risks involved with starting my own thing, but nothing felt more terrifying than leaving my thing!
To great amazement, nothing happened. Life went on and it wasn't the end of the world. There are a lot of emotional high and lows with being an entrepreneur. Then you add in the female element where you can multiply your mood swings by 100x. I think at some point I turned into a robot to mentally deal with everything :)
Leaving was the best thing I was forced to do. It gave me time to think about what I wanted and the direction I wanted to take. Clarity.
As always, I provide a list of lessons learned:
1. Don't be afraid to fail.When you accept failure and no longer afraid of it happening, it frees you to do whatever you want to do. This is easy to say from someone who doesn't have a family or obligations, so I speak from a single female POV. I honestly do not think I could do this if I was older, married and with kids.
2. Make a list of things that remind you why you started this in the first place. This will help for those rough days where doubt creeps in. You can read your list to keep you sane.
3. Share how you feel. At this point, I can't be the same social butterfly as I once was, but I've streamlined and kept 3 people on speed dial. I call/FaceTime/email these people when I need emotional support. I'm the social butterfly on select days :)
4. Remember that you are not the center of the universe. My mom used to scold me about not eating all my food and tell me how there are starving kids in Vietnam. Just a small reminder that there is a world that exists around you.